We all make excuses for the people we love and sometimes even for strangers. Sometimes you just need to put your foot down and stand your ground so that people stop walking all over you.
We’re all human, and we’re not perfect. When we make mistakes, we tend to mess up quite a bit, and we don’t realize that the people we love are our collateral damage.
We make exceptions for people’s behavior even though we know that they’re aware they’re being disrespectful. Forgiving them can come at your own expense, so you might need to stop excusing their behavior.
They’re human too
Deep feeling for a lover or even a family member can lead you down the path of overlooking things. You end up buying into their blatant lies because you believe them and hold them to such high standards.
Just because you love them doesn’t make them incapable of mistakes. You can still love them while holding them accountable for their action!
Sometimes you just need a break.
When they do something that hurts you, you can take a break! When your feelings are hurt, you don’t have to forgive them immediately. You’re allowed to take time to process your emotions, even if it means taking a break from the relationship.
It hurts your feelings
It can be easy to push your feelings of hurt aside and not deal with them. But we all know it tends to come back and haunt you, so as tempting as it is, confront your feelings and deal with them accordingly.
You can try methods of processing your feelings by yourself, like journaling or meditation. If you feel like their bad behavior has had a lasting effect on you that you’re unable to cope with, you can also seek mental help.
They’re disrespecting your boundaries.
Your boundaries are ways to make sure the people around you love and respect who you are. Having them in place sets a standard for how you want to be treated, and if people can’t meet those minimum requirements, do they deserve to have you in their life?
Sometimes the word sorry comes as an empty promise, and you end up giving someone access to you only for them to keep up with the same old behavior. Try and only accept apologies in the form of changed behavior!
As much as you love someone, they might not have your best interests at heart. So maybe it’s an opportunity to love and let go for a bit and just focus on yourself. If they care about you, they’ll make the changes to keep you around.
Dr Saadiqah Hajat