As our children get older and more independent, we will naturally start thinking about the day when they will eventually leave our homes to start their lives independently. It is a heart-wrenching but real thought.
Empty-nest syndrome is something that most parents dread as their children get to the age when they are leaving home. However, there are ways that you can cope with this transitional time in your life.
Here are some ways to come to terms with having an empty nest for the first time.
Lean On Your Partner
Running around your children their whole lives can sometimes lead to you and your partner becoming somewhat distant. However, when your children eventually leave home, you must reconnect with them.
Find things that you love to do with your partner or go back to everything you used to do together alone before you had children. Doing this will allow you to forget about the kids being gone for a little while.
Just because your child is leaving home does not mean that you will not be able to talk to them again. All you need to do is stay in communication with your children, which is ridiculously easy nowadays.
However, you do not want your children to feel smothered or think that you are overbearing so try to keep in contact once a day and at a time that works for your children. Doing this will ensure that your kids always want to talk to you, too.
Lean On Your Friends
You will likely have a few friends in the same phase of their lives as you are or friends who have already gone through their children moving out of their homes. Having these friends around can be helpful during this time.
Talking with your friends and getting advice from them on coping is an excellent way to get through it because it will be a first-hand experience from like-minded people. Seeing these friends might also help you all to feel more connected to your own lives rather than your children’s.
Find New Hobbies
Having said that you need to see your friends and possibly get out with them. An excellent way to do this is to find new hobbies. These can be hobbies of your own or hobbies that you can take your friends along for.
It doesn’t have to be any kind of traditional hobby. It could be anything from scrapbooking to pole dancing. Any kind of hobby that you choose will be beneficial in distracting you from thinking about your children moving out.
It is easy to get bogged down by all the negative emotions surrounding your child moving out of your house, but staying positive will help you to see the bright side of it all. Knowing that they are starting their lives is an exciting time in everybody’s lives.
You can think about how well you have done as a parent to prepare your child for their own lives or how proud you are that your child has come so far in their lives. Staying positive is the best way to make the experience better for both you and your child.