As a woman, there are some things our minds have been conditioned to accept or to do. This may be due to the environment in which we find ourselves, but sometimes, we need to unlearn certain habits and enjoy this life while reveling in our hard work and success.
In this list, you may have been found guilty of one or more of these. If not, you are one of the few women living some versions of her best life. We lose our minds trying to achieve perfection in our experiences, relationships, and way of being, and over and over, it becomes exhausting.
We know women are naturally empathetic creatures. Even though this is a useful and necessary trait, we should never let others take advantage of this and make us feel guilty for wanting what we want.
1. Being Ashamed Of Your Success
This is what we call the impostor syndrome—that nagging voice telling you all the negatives after an accomplishment. You then start to feel like an impostor when you accomplish something professionally.
Women are more likely than men to feel out of place at work, often doubting that they deserve the successes they achieve. Remember this: You got that new job, promotion, rank, or public recognition because you were worthy of it! If you worked your butt off to get to the top, enjoy it!
2. Be Afraid Of Loneliness
You have control over some things, like trying to have romantic dates and meeting new people and others you can’t do anything about.
Finding a life partner (or a temporary one) is one of them. You can’t decide when and where you’ll meet a soul mate, so stop focusing on the idea that you’ll be spending your entire life alone. There are things much worse than being alone.
3. Wear Heels Every Day
Think how much you torture your poor feet daily. Everyone loves a nice pair of shoes, but opting for comfort (most of the time) will not only make transportation a lot more livable but also your feet a lot happier.
Besides, flat shoes can be stylish. You can pair them with almost everything you have in your wardrobe. So, why not leave the heels for special occasions and give your feet a well-deserved break.
4. Not Talking About Salaries
We may be indignant every year, again and again, at the gap between the wages received by women and men, and the inequalities continue to widen. Hence the need to continue to mobilize so that equal pay between women and men does not remain a pretty promise and turns into a concrete reality.
Women should be able to openly talk about how much they earn and how much they are worth so that the upcoming women in their field would learn to charge their worth and not just accept any offer that comes their way.
5. Say “Yes” To Everything
Saying ‘No’ is so much fun that every woman should try it from time to time. You don’t have to give in to the demands of your friends, family, and others all the time. Stop saying “yes” when you don’t mean it. People respect you more when you set limits.
Remember, when you say no, you’re not turning your back on the person. You’re only refusing their request at the time being because your plate is full, and you honestly need the time for yourself. Be selfish with your time, and don’t let anyone guilt-trip you.
6. See Food As An Enemy
Women are receiving information from all sides that their physique is of great interest to them. Our hair should be soft and perfectly wavy, our face covered in makeup at all times but with an impression of naturalness, and our silhouettes slender or thin.
When one is engaged in this quest for impossible standards, it is easy to see food as something to be limited rather than savored. Be aware of what you are putting into your body; after all, it is the only one you have but try to let go of the guilt. Food shouldn’t come with regrets.
7. Compare Your Real Life To Someone’s Virtual Life
Spending too much time thinking about your virtual life can be a source of anxiety, as can obsessing over other people’s virtual characters. Research has shown that Facebook and Instagram addiction is linked to a drop in self-esteem.
And who wouldn’t feel bad, sitting in bed on a Monday night looking at their ex’s vacation album or the active statuses posted by your friends who went to a great party? Rather than continually comparing, which increases your chances of depression, shut down your computer and enjoy the present. At least it’s real.
8. Not Being Able To Talk About A Miscarriage
The traumatic nature of a miscarriage often leaves the feeling of isolation. This is amplified by the fear of those close to you who dare not bring up the subject. Yet, women who have been there often feel the need to talk about it.
If talking about it will make you heal faster, then you should do so. Encourage those around you not to tiptoe around the subject. Yes, it was a painful experience, but you have to let go and try again.