Loving yourself can be a challenge, but we’ve got to wake up and treat ourselves like the precious people we are! But having a good relationship with yourself means that you have to put in a lot of effort to show yourself love!
We all need love in our lives, and sometimes, the love we crave comes from ourselves! But we tend to be tougher on ourselves than we need to and neglect giving ourselves the love we need.
Making a habit of showing yourself kindness and love is a way to practice self-love and better your relationship with yourself. Here are some ways to practice self-love.
1. Make A Habit Of Self-Care
Self-care is a form of self-love, and you enjoy it. So make the time in your day to take care of yourself every single day, even if it’s only 10-minutes of your day!
If you enjoy something, then take the time to get it done! Looking after yourself is a huge part of self-love; you deserve all the time and care you need!
2. Allow Yourself To Make Mistakes
As a human, you should be allowed to make mistakes in your life. There are no rules to this life, and if you happen to mess up, then don’t be so hard on yourself!
You deserve to make mistakes the same way that others do. You can always get back up and fix your mistakes so go out and make as many as you can!
3. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
Everyone is fighting their own battle, and we don’t always put our weakest points up for display. Even in the world of social media, people aren’t posting their original unedited images for us to look at.
What we see online is rarely a reality, and comparing yourself to that isn’t going to make you feel better. Instead, take the time to rather appreciate your life and everyone and thing in it, because life isn’t a competition and there are no judges!
4. Learn To Let It Go
Holding onto things can bring us more pain and even affect our confidence! Past experiences and people who don’t align with our values can hurt us more than help us.
So we have to learn to let them go to move on and make space for light and love in our lives because the hurting doesn’t let you grow and become the person you want to be!
5. Be Mindful
In the business of life, we let things slip and go because we’ve become too busy. As a result, some of our feelings get suppressed and become bottled up, only for us to explode at a later time.
Take some time to check in with yourself and process through those emotions at the end of the day. Reflect on the things you’ve felt and learn from your mistakes; practice mindfulness so that you can become a better person!
6. Tackle The Negativity
The inner critic can deeply affect our confidence and even leave us feeling like we aren’t worthy and often incapable. But you can always tackle the negative comments by asking your inner critic, “why?”
When you start questioning these negative thoughts, you realize how absurd they are. Or you might even recognize an area in your life that requires a boundary!
7. Know Your Worth
We often confuse our value with the way we look or how useful we are in the lives of others. But that’s not how you should value yourself!
You deserve love, and you don’t have to go about looking a certain way or bending over backward for people to show you love! They should be able to love you just for being yourself because you’re amazing as you are!
8. Understand Your Fears
The things that scare us can hold us back in life and even keep us from growing into the people we want to be. Understand why you’re scared of things, and find ways to work through or around your fears, so they don’t control your life!
9. Feel Your Feelings
You’re allowed to feel happy or sad no matter what is going on in the world. However, your feelings shouldn’t feel like an inconvenience to those around you, and you shouldn’t worry about others having it worse or better than you.
The feelings that you have are valid and should be expressed healthily! Life is filled with ups and downs, and we should be able to experience them freely and fully, even if it’s happiness in a period where the world is falling apart!
10. Don’t Doubt Yourself
You can and do make choices that are good for yourself every single day! So don’t doubt that when the time comes to make a huge decision, you’re incapable of doing so because you know what is best for yourself!
It gets difficult at times to believe in and trust yourself, but you know yourself best! Loving yourself can be a tough journey, but it’s a beautiful one that you’ll be happy you went on. So take the first step to love yourself and find your happiness!
Dr Saadiqah Hajat