Kinky Guide: Exploring The Techniques Of Choking During Sex
Does grabbing someone’s throat during sex turns you on? Or have experienced it with a partner and maybe wondering why — choking during sex isn’t a new kink.
Unlike some other kinks such as bondage and BDSM, choking isn’t new, and it does involve some risks. Erotic asphyxiation (EA) should be played responsibly, even though there isn’t really a “safe” way to choke someone without being risky.
But if you’re really into it, or your partner is, you should understand what is EA and educate yourself about it and how you can incorporate it safely.
What Is Erotic Asphyxiation?
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Erotic asphyxiation (EA) or breath play can be done solo or with a partner. It’s an intentional restriction of someone’s air supply during sexual activity. Choking is considered an edge play, such as nose-pinching and mouth-covering, that can cause serious harm.
Why Some People Like It?
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If it sounds crazy to you, some people get turned on with some kind of breath play, resulting in a heightened sense of arousal.
The lack of oxygen can induce a semi-hallucinogenic state, followed by a release of dopamine and serotonin, and they tend to enjoy it.
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The release of both neurotransmitters leads to an exhilarating sensation as the body works to recover to its previous oxygenated state. The brain, then, translates pain into pleasure.
From the psychological aspect, giving control or controlling your partner is liberating to some people. However, it shows enormous vulnerability from the side of the “submissive” partner and trust.
How To Incorporate Into Your Sex Life in A Safe Way
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Communication and consent are the keys. Without these two, forget about safe breath play. You must align with your partner before, even if you’ve done it before. It’s better not to assume anything.
And whether you feel comfortable or not with the situation, you need to communicate with your partner what are your boundaries, including verbal and nonverbal cues, before, during, and after sex. Have a safe word or motion and align with them.
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Also, keep your mind clear before engaging in this kind of sexual practice. Sex by itself might decrease dexterity and acuity, and one under the influence of chemicals such as alcohol and drugs might lose the sense of reality.