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There is a growing trend among older women nowadays choosing to start families much later in life. If you're thinking about doing the same, here's what you should know about getting pregnant at 45.
It's natural to worry about getting pregnant if you are past what experts consider your most fertile years — generally below age 35. Research has shown that as you grow older, your chances of naturally conceiving decrease.

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However, with recent advances in infertility treatments, there has been a steady rise of women over 45 being able to fall pregnant. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the birth rate among women ages 45 to 49 has increased by 12%.
"We've had enormous advances in reproductive endocrinology and infertility treatments, and that has given many women more options," says Dr. Mary D'Alton, obstetrician and gynecologist-in-chief at NewYork-Presbyterian and Columbia.
If you're considering starting a family later in life and wondering what your chances are, here's what you should know.

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You're born with about two million eggs, which is all you'll ever have in your lifetime. Your biological clock starts ticking when you get your first period and keeps going until menopause.
By that time you get your first period, your egg count will have dropped to around 300,000, and only a small portion will be healthy enough to fertilize. Over your reproductive years, you'll ovulate about 500 times, and with each passing decade, the number of viable eggs decreases.

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Here's a breakdown of how your chances of conceiving change with age:

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Getting pregnant after 45 can be challenging, but it's not impossible. At this age, fertility naturally declines as both egg count and quality decrease. That's where assisted reproductive technologies (ART) come in, giving you a better chance of conceiving with medical support.
Here are the most common options:

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Once you've explored your options, the next step is to talk to your doctor. According to Dr. D'Alton, it's essential to meet with an OB-GYN or maternal-fetal medicine specialist before trying to conceive.
Your doctor will review your overall health — including diet, exercise, and chronic conditions like high blood pressure — and help determine the safest, most effective fertility plan for you.

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While modern fertility treatments and attentive prenatal care make it possible for many women over 45 to conceive, pregnancy at this age carries a higher risk of complications.
You may be more likely to experience:
These risks don't mean you can't have a healthy pregnancy—just that you'll need extra care and attention throughout. With the right medical support and lifestyle choices, many women in their late 30s and 40s go on to have safe, successful pregnancies.
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