It’s something most of us have experienced at one point or another. You’re texting, and the conversation seems to be flowing like a clear stream until things get all muddied up by the unexplained blue ticks.
The reasons one might get left on read are plentiful, but it happens that the uncertainty and doubt cause a person to assume the worst.
Being blue ticked sucks but handling it correctly might be able to provide clarity. Here are six ways to handle being left on read:
You Might Not Be The Current Priority
Life is constantly moving, and as unsettling as this truth may be, it is that at this moment, there is something else otherwise occupying this person’s time and energy.
With that, this is not an excuse for poor communication, and remember, while someone having a lot of life to deal with happens to the best of us, it doesn’t mean you have to stand for consistently not having your needs met. But also, do leave room for human beings to be human.
What Was The Previous Message
Consider whether or not the message before warranted a response. Sometimes people might say nothing because, well, they’re quite simply is nothing to say.
If you find that your last text kind of closed up the possibilities of them responding, you can smoothly spark up another chat.
You’ve realized that your messages are being read but not responded to, which might send you into a bit of panic. While it’s understandably hurtful to be left on read, refrain from sending text after text in a desperate attempt to “make” then text you back.
If they’ve seen the message and they’re available or want to respond, just as they did before, they will respond. However, if it turns out that they’re ignoring you, your incessant texting probably won’t change their heart.
Is This A Pattern
Establish whether or not this person might have formed a habit of vanishing and reappearing. This might be a sign that your love interest is emotionally unavailable. Unfortunately, hoping to “change” someone who’s not emotional in the space to give you what you want is unlikely.
If you’re constantly blue-ticked, you might also want to look at your patterns. Are you communicating your expectations and making it clear what you want from the interaction?
Accept That They’re Not Ready To Commit
Unfortunately, people don’t always communicate how they feel, leaving you to assume. It’s best first to ask and have an open conversation about the lack of response; however, you may want to consider that they’re not looking to commit.
Thay may have just wanted a one night stand, or are in another relationship that they may or may not have told you about.
Pursue Something Else With Someone Interested
Sometimes the hard truth is that they’re just not that into you or that they’re not willing to try. Either way, be more concerned about what you want and types of behavior that don’t work for you.
Once you’ve put in place those boundaries, stick with them. You’re all the magic and then some. You deserve to feel seen and not just left on seen!