A Guide To Successfully Rejecting Romantic Advancement

As a woman, I have been in many awkward situations where I feel like I cannot reject a man simply for fear of what he might do next. However, we do need to find ways that we can healthily reject romantic advancements. 

There are many ways that women (and men) can reject romantic advancements in a way that is both respectful of the person making the advancement and healthy for you, and we are here to teach you the ways. 

Here is how to successfully and safely reject romantic advancements. 

Be Honest 


Trying to reject someone will not work if you are beating around the bush. You have to be upfront and honest about what you want and what you mean. It can be daunting to do this because of the fear we all have about rejecting someone. 

However, you must be honest with the person you are rejecting to don’t feel like there is a door open for the future. They need to know that the door has been closed and locked! 

Give Space 


Once you have rejected someone, try not to be in their space too much as they might not want to be around anyone or speak to anyone, especially if they were really into you. Give them some space to process. 

This is not to say that you need to ghost the person straight after rejecting them. You can remain friends or be cordial with one another. However, if you don’t feel comfortable remaining in contact, you shouldn’t feel obligated. 

Don’t Text 


While it might be the easiest thing to do to reject someone over a text message, it is also one of the most heartless. You should always meet with a person or speak to them on the phone to reject them respectfully. 

However, if you fear your safety at meeting the person or speaking to them over the phone, you can text them. Remember that this should only be done if you feel unsafe being face-to-face with the person. 

Straight To The Point 


This is similar to being honest in that it is the truth that comes out immediately. When you are rejecting someone, make sure that you get straight to the point without letting too much time elapse. 

Doing this will ensure that the other person does not feel strung along and can minimize any conflict reject from the rejection. Try to get it over with as soon as you meet up, like ripping off a band-aid. 



It is always lovely to receive a compliment, and it can usually soften any kind of blow that we might suffer from. For this reason, you should always try to pair your rejection with a compliment to allow the person to feel validated. 

The compliments do not have to be insincere. You can state simply that they are a great person but simply aren’t your type. You could also mention all of the things you like about them and follow with the fact that you are not looking for a serious relationship. 

Written By:
Daniella Segell

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