It’s time you start being kinder to yourself! You spend a significant part of your life alone, and there’s nothing better on your journey of life than a great relationship with yourself!
We’re human, and we make mistakes, but sometimes we end up being a little too harsh on ourselves. If you wouldn’t hold your friends to that standard, then why do you hold that standard for yourself?
Your relationship with yourself needs to be strong; you’re going to be with yourself for a very long time, so why not make that relationship a happy one? Here’s how you can practice self-compassion in your life and become the happy and compassionate person you really are!
Stop the negative talk.
Dump the idea that negative talk helps get the job done! Name-calling didn’t work when it came from your childhood bully, so it’s definitely not going to work when you do it to yourself!
Be patient with yourself and allow room for error, you can’t be perfect all the time, but that shouldn’t stop you from trying! Instead of talking down to yourself, try treating yourself like you’re one of your friends.
Be positive, reassure yourself that you are not your mistake, and figure out ways to move on! It helps you become more resilient at tackling problems, and you won’t feel the need to wallow in your failures!
Look after yourself
Positive reinforcement is the way to go when you’re feeling down. Your body has needs, and meeting them is a way of showing yourself compassion and love!
Take the time to treat yourself with kindness and give your body what it needs. Eat something you love, give yourself a massage where you feel stressed, and rest up when you need to!
It’s sometimes a whole lot easier forgiving the people around us but punishing yourself for making mistakes isn’t the way to go! You shouldn’t place your worth on the things you can do, and mistakes shouldn’t take from your worth.
So forgive yourself for your mistakes; you learn and grow from your mistakes; they don’t define who you are! Reassure yourself that everything will be okay even if you have to put it down in writing and read it over and over again!
It’s easy to distract yourself and push your problems away instead of dealing with them, but bottling it up only makes for a bigger explosion later! Try and acknowledge the feeling, allow yourself to feel your emotions, and deal with them so you can move past them!
It can be difficult just to be content with what we have, especially when we’re trying to build ourselves up in this world. But we end up taking the things we do have for granted.
Be grateful for everything you do have, not in a way that compares it to those less fortunate either. Be grateful for what you have in your life because, without it, you wouldn’t be able to do the things you’re currently doing!
You wouldn’t dare treat anyone you love in a way that makes them question their worth! Treat yourself with kindness, love, and understanding because you’re worthy of it from yourself especially!
Dr Saadiqah Hajat