Love Bombing: Innocent Act Or Red Flag
Beginning a new relationship is always fun and exciting, but while you are getting to know the person and deciding whether or not you’d like to be with them long-term, there are a few things that you should look out for.
The things that we look out for in relationships have commonly become known as red flags and have become quite a hot topic in conversations about relationships in the past couple of years. Everybody is on the lookout for red flags.
One of the most innocent-looking red flags in a relationship is love-bombing, and here is everything you need to know about it.
What Is Love-bombing?
When you get into a new relationship, you will almost immediately enter the honeymoon phase, where it seems as if everything your new partner does is adorable. You can’t get enough of them.
During this phase, you are still getting to know one another, and it seems like everything you do is something that your partner loves and vice versa. You can see no wrong in your partner, and you have more in common than you have differences.
However, for some, this phase is a lot more intense than for others. Your partner might be telling you daily how much they admire you, how wonderful you are and how grateful they are to have you in their lives.
You will feel loved and admired as you have never been before, but if you are not careful, this can very quickly turn into something awful, and it is very difficult to figure out when it is genuine love and admiration and when it is love-bombing.
Why Is It A Red Flag?
While it might seem like an innocent act to tell your partner how much you love and admire them when someone is love-bombing you, they are not doing it to express their genuine admiration for you.
When someone is love-bombing you, it is an extremely manipulative tactic that will make you feel indebted to and dependent on that person for love and validation because you don’t think you will receive it anywhere else.
You might recognize that you are love-bombed if your partner is buying you gifts excessively with the excuse that they just want to spoil you, or if they make you feel guilty for wasting your time and space away from them by telling you that all they want to do is spend their time with you.
Love-bombing can be an unconscious behavior, and anybody can display these tendencies because they are largely unconscious. Still, love-bombing tendencies are most common in people with narcissistic personality disorder.
It is important to have a good self-image and self-love so that somebody else’s approval will not affect you, and therefore being love-bombed will not have as intense an effect on you as it might on others.