Self-Sabotaging: 5 Ways You May Be Holding Yourself Back From Reaching Your Potential

May 05, 2021
02:00 A.M.
Share this pen

Self-sabotaging can come in a number of ways and it can limit us from reaching our potential in different facets of our lives.


It's important that we're able to notice these limiting habits that we often fall into that keep us from being all that we can and stop us in our tracks from feeling fulfilled in relationships, professional and personal life.

Self-sabotaging habits can occur from past events that may have caused you to feel unsafe. We develop these habits to try and protect ourselves from feeling that way again but the unfortunate thing, they can keep us stuck in the pain of that moment, struggling to grow beyond that. Here are five ways that you may be self-sabotaging:

Not Asking For Help

Photo by Austin Kehmeier on Unsplash

Photo by Austin Kehmeier on Unsplash


Many of us fall into the pattern of constant giving, at work, to our friends or family. But we find ourselves out of the habit of receiving as such many of us have a hard time asking for help and receiving it from others.

However, there's nothing wrong with asking for help when you would like a hand. You don't have to do it all by yourself, and when you don't know what to do or how to move forward, allow yourself to lean on your support system. Let giving be a two-way street.

Seeking Outward Validation

Photo by Usman Yousaf on Unsplash

Photo by Usman Yousaf on Unsplash


There's no problem with enjoying compliments and affirming words from others. However, if you find that you're living at the service of other's validation and struggling to move on without it, it may be limiting you.

Open yourself up to practical ways of self-affirmation and trust your intuition because it's always on your side. If you can celebrate yourself and essentially give to yourself, we may stunt our growth and limit our life experiences.

Lack Of Rest

Photo by Tony Tran on Unsplash

Photo by Tony Tran on Unsplash


Another common habit that many have adopted in life, and largely highlighted during the pandemic, is to be in the hustle and bustle of life, so much so that we put rest second.

To be well rested helps us to be more of ourselves while constant fatigue takes us away. Rest also allows us to reflect and grow, and you may find that taking a few hours in a day can help you flourish.

Passive Aggression

Photo by Les Anderson on Unsplash

Photo by Les Anderson on Unsplash


This is especially true in relationships where you may always feel ready to pick a fight with a friend or partner, even over minor issues.

Try instead to exercise good communication by telling your partner what upsets you and responding kindly to the situation. Be aware when you're feeling particularly provocative and try to address the issue differently.

Lacking Structure And Regimens

Photo by Content Pixie on Unsplash

Photo by Content Pixie on Unsplash

Having a nighttime regimen and a morning regimen helps us to ground ourselves and also let the body know that you love and care for it to know to relax instead of being in a perpetual do and think.

The result of this may be seen in constantly feeling the need to over plan and sometimes with little follow-through and commitment.

Related posts

5 Funeral Dresses under $50 Suitable as Mourning Attire

October 30, 2023

Are Claw Clips Bad for Your Hair? Exploring the Benefits & Easy Hairstyles

August 03, 2023

Jojoba Oil for Nails: Discover the Benefits of This Natural Nail Care Solution

August 17, 2023

Aloe Vera Skincare: Harnessing the Power of Nature for Healthy Skin

August 25, 2023

How to Store Makeup Brushes and Clean Them Effectively

July 20, 2023

Helpful Tips to Properly Care For Oily Dehydrated Skin

July 17, 2023

Why Does My Makeup Look Patchy? Skincare Tips for a Flawless Look

August 22, 2023

French Manicure 2023: Top 10 Ideas to Try On Your Nails

October 09, 2023

Navigating the Talking Phase and Signs It Is Going Well

July 27, 2023

Y2K Nails: Easy Designs for Everyone to Rock the Retro Vibe

August 14, 2023

Jelly Nails - The Bright Sheer Manicure Trend Applicable in Different Colors

October 23, 2023

What Is a Matron of Honor? Exploring The Roles and Responsibilities

August 07, 2023

Fulani Braids & Different Ways to Style Them

October 05, 2023

Decoding the Mid-Size Body Type: Fashion Insights and Must-Haves

August 28, 2023