Sometimes there are more obvious red flags that might be glaringly obvious to you, telling you to run the other way. But sometimes, you’ve been with someone for enough time that all the good moments cloud the fact that your relationship is no longer serving you.
Talking it out with your SO is the first step, but if you’re still feeling questioning, dissatisfied and unseen, it might be time to do some romantic stock taking.
Breaking up with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re bad, but sometimes you just want better for yourself, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It may make you sad to break up with someone, but sometimes, it’s what you need for yourself. Here are some signs to look out for that it might be time to end your relationship.
Your Needs Aren’t Being Met
Most people have certain requirements that they might have from a relationship, be it emotional, physical, or practical. Not having your needs met can make you feel frustrated and unfulfilled in the relationship.
If you’ve addressed this with your partner before and they are unable or unwilling to meet your requirements openly, it might be time to leave.
You’re Waiting For Them To Change
If you’re waiting for your partner to be the perfect idea of a partner that you have in your mind, you might be more in love with the idea of who they could change to become rather than loving them.
You might have to readjust how you see them and accept who they are, and if you find that you don’t like them, it might be the sign to call it quits.
You’ve Grown Apart
You’ve tried all the tips and tricks to reintroduce the spark in your relationship, but they seem to all fall flat. It happens. Growing apart is normal, and if you’ve felt far from your partner for a while or that you’re growing in different directions that no longer feel compatible, it might be time to say goodbye.
They’re Too Clingy
If you feel like your partner is taking up every bit of your free time to the point that you cant have time to cultivate other relationships with friends or family, kindly address it with them. However, if they prefer that you don’t spend time with others… Red flag alert.
You Don’t Like Your Partner
It may sound obvious, but falling in love with someone you don’t like can happen. If you don’t feel like your SO is just a really bomb person, whether or not you’re together, ask yourself if you actually like your lover.
You’ve Been Working Things Out
Months have gone by, and you SO are still “working things out”. Indeed, relationships are not exactly rainbows and daisies all the time, and sometimes, you and your partner might have to work through some difficulties together. However, when it’s seemingly to no end, it might be the
Your Partner Is Abusive
No matter how your partner tries to spin it, abuse is never your fault, and it’s never okay. Love is not controlling or hurtful, not physically, emotionally, sexually, financially, or in any way, shape or form.
You Feel Obligated To Stay
Sometimes you might think about the time and effort you’ve put into the relationship already, and it might make you feel like you can’t “give up” on it.
However, things can change over time, and the relationship that you had is nothing to regret. It might just be time to move on.
You Constantly Annoyed By Your Partner
If you find yourself internally rolling your eyes or even snapping at them often, consider what the cause of your irritation might be.
Sometimes you might be bringing home work stress or residual pressure from outside your relationship, but sometimes, it’s pointing to the fact that you don’t like the person you’re with.
You Don’t Feel Like You Can Express Yourself
Naturally, there might be a sense of discomfort when talking about certain subjects. But if you don’t feel like you have a safe space to voice your needs, frustrations, or just be you, without judgment, consider that it might be time to walk.
Breaking up with someone you’ve formed a connection with isn’t easy, but you are worth the love you want. You don’t have to compromise your value, needs, and happiness.