When it comes to sex, men and women often have very different ideas. Not because a woman must necessarily want to cuddle, or a man should leave immediately afterward, but because our bodies are different and need, in some cases, different stimuli.
While there aren’t any hard- and- fast rules on what to do in the bedroom, there are some common sexual wrongs men tend to do due to misunderstanding, miscommunication, or simply because the habit has taken over.
These are the most common mistakes some of the women in your lives may have encountered, and they would like you to know and understand them.
1. All Women Are Different
Sex is not a stereotype! Just because your ex liked it does not mean your current should like it. It is not a mathematical formula that applies to each case. Unfortunately, it is one of the most common mistakes.
To avoid such a mistake, the solution is one and very simple: communicate. Ask your partner what they like and learn what gives them pleasure. This will save you both the headache.
2. The Clitoris Is Delicate
The clitoris is an extremely sensitive point on the female body. As such, it requires delicacy. The second of the male mistakes is, sometimes, not taking them into account.
Violently rubbing or paying an abrupt gesture and ending the magic too soon is what some men have been used to. It is proper (indeed, necessary) to give the clitoris the appropriate attention: you must stimulate it, and it must be in the right way.
3. This Is Not A Movie
We bet that in your daily life, after jumping out of a running car, you rarely run for a breathless half marathon to break through a glass window and save the world by hacking a supercomputer, all wearing a leather jacket. Perfect, so why should a sexual relationship be such and what is seen in porn?
Among the mistakes that a partner could make, there is precisely this: believing in pornography. What goes online cannot be ideal sex. Without demonizing pornography, you should distinguish between reality, relationships, contact, and fiction.
4. Enjoy The Moment
Of course, the pinnacle of the relationship is penetration. But it would be best if you didn’t run to the finish without enjoying the ride. Furthermore, many women reach orgasm more easily if properly stimulated before the act itself.
In this case, we are talking about the moment of intimacy that is established, not just sexual intercourse. The post-coital can be enjoyable and rewarding as much as foreplay and penetration. Especially if you are in your partner’s company, it is a time to share, communicate, and learn a lot about each other.
5. The Words That Can Ruin A Perfectly Good Moment
Did you cum? Or even, did you like it? The orgasm is not the only component of sex, do not do make these silly mistakes. Pleasure culminates in orgasm, it is true, but it is also before and after.
And most importantly, sexual intercourse without orgasm is not a failure. If this case were to recur too often, it should be discussed, but don’t limit yourself to thinking that it is a necessity. We communicate, yes, but in the right way (and “did you cum?” is not the right way).