5 Relationship Red Flags You Should Not Ignore
Always trust your gut. The relationship field can be tricky to navigate because it’s easy to get swept off your feet by the perfect partner. However, there could be some tiny things that could feel unsettling.
There is a fine difference between compromise and being uncomfortable. We aren’t talking about how they chew their food. We are talking about complex habits that cannot be passed off as behavioral quirks.
Red flags can be defined as actions your partner may do that signifies a lack of respect, integrity, or interest in the relationship. Therefore, if you’re in the dating pool and feeling hesitant about the relationship, here are red flags you shouldn’t ignore.
They Are Overly Critical About Their Exes
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Look out for how your partner talks about their past relationships. This is important since it will show you how they will most likely treat you. Not every relationship needs to have ended well. However, if your partner’s relationship history was full of terrible exes, lookout.
If your partner is always the victim and is over-critical of all his exes, this is a major red flag. This means they've rid themselves of any blame, have not learned from their past relationships, and are now relying on you to make the relationship work.
Your Partner Wants Their Own Way
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It’s okay to be open to new experiences. However, if you find yourself constantly doing only what your partner wants to do without any compromise, it’s a red flag. They could be displaying signs of controlling behavior by preventing you from doing what you want to do.
In any relationship, compromise is key. Therefore both opinions are valid and one partner should not be standing their ground without listening to the other person. Having a compromise where both partners are not thrilled but not disappointed either is key.
They Don’t Initiate Dates
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It’s time to put your planner aside if you find yourself always initiating dates. Going the extra mile to doing all the planning, while your partner is completely disinterested to do the same is something you should look out for.
The relationship will develop into a one-sided one leaving you doing all the work. If your partner is really not contributing much, they might not just be that into you. Remember, when someone is proactive it’s attractive.
You Can’t Tell Them How You Truly Feel
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While it may be okay to keep some things to yourself, be cautious if you don’t want to share anything. If you unconsciously find yourself hesitant to open up to your partner, you might be fearing criticism, or thinking they could laugh at your thoughts.
As a result, you might find yourself changing in order to fit your partner. If you’re in this position, take a step back and reevaluate the situation. If you’re changing earlier on in the relationship, you can end up as someone you don’t recognize down the line.
They Don’t Talk Through Issues
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Communication is the foundation of any relationship. Therefore if you find your partner not willing to talk about ongoing issues you may face, that is a major red flag. Even if the issue is small or big, it is important to discuss them.
Also, your partner’s reaction when discussing issues is important. If they often shut down, have a breakdown, throw a tantrum, then those are major red flags. Remember, the essence of any good relationship is communicating each other’s opinions and feeling heard.