A Guide To Dealing With A Cheating Partner

Infidelity can plague any relationship and put the other person in a state of distress. Fortunately, your partner’s cheating doesn’t have to be the end of the world since there are many ways to handle it. 

When a partner cheats on you, they betray your trust, hurt your feelings and bruise your ego. It seems as if nothing can be said or done to repair the damage once someone has been unfaithful in a relationship. 

The emotions one feels after being cheated on can be quite complicated and complex to get through. Fortunately, you no longer have to deal with it alone if it ever happens; just look at our tips to cope when your partner cheats. 

Take Time To Yourself

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Whether you’ve decided to stay with your partner or not, it is essential to take some time alone to think. You will need to accept every single emotion that comes up due to infidelity, which may be a rollercoaster. 

Taking some time will help you decompress and truly think about moving on with the relationship. This time alone may also help you gather your thoughts and grieve more appropriately. 

Don’t Seek Revenge

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Another reason for taking some time alone is to calm you down from trying to seek revenge. Although you may be hurt, putting your cheating partner on blast to all your family and friends will hurt you as well. 

In the case that you will try to repair the relationship, punishing your partner by trash-talking them will affect you too. Your friends and family will have strong opinions that may make moving forward difficult. 

Avoid The Blame Game

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Blaming yourself, or the third party will only cause more pain and waste more energy. Trying to shift around the blame once a partner has cheated will not change the facts of what happened. 

The grieving process may lead you in a spiral to find why they cheated, but it just won’t help. Often, the victims blame themselves, but it is essential to know that cheating is a selfish act that another can’t control.  

Decide How To Move Forward

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Once you’ve taken time alone to process your feelings, you may know whether you’re staying in the relationship or not. It is vital to be honest with yourself no matter which direction you sway in at this time. 

Ask yourself whether you’ll be able to trust and forgive your partner and if there’s more you want from the relationship. You should also consider counseling when needed to work through issues with your partner.

Get Tested

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This is a tough pill to swallow, but you never know how many more there are when a partner has been unfaithful. It is essential to take care of yourself first, emotionally, mentally, and physically after infidelity.

Get tested whether you tell your partner or not to rule out any sexually transmitted infections. If you are resuming the relationship with the partner, it is essential to ask them to get tested even if they claim to be safe.

Written by:
Siba Mosana

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