A Guide To Giving The Best Wedding Speech

As part of the bridal party, you may be asked to give a toast in honor of the bride or groom. What to say, when to say it, and how to get rid of those butterflies in your stomach.

The wedding speech is an essential characteristic of any wedding. More important than flowers, decorations; more important than the color of the wedding cake and even, dare I say, even more, important than your wedding dress. If you’re a Miranda Priestly fashion lover, you may think I’m saying heresy.

There is no better way to express your gratitude to everyone than with a heartfelt speech. These tips will help you write a speech that will leave everyone speechless.

Simple, Short, and Straightforward

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The first rule is not to overdo it, especially if you are the bride or groom writing the speech. It is a message intended to thank the guests for being with you on such a happy day. The mood to follow is to go where your heart takes you, and it will be the best strategy to communicate the joy you feel.

Don’t Improvise

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Although in your favorite films, it always seems that the protagonists can express precisely what they feel in the heat of the moment, in reality, you have to remember that, behind every script, there are hours and hours of writing, correcting, criticizing, and criticizing rewriting.

So how do you expect to bring out your emotions at the moment and explain what you feel in a precise and engaging way? Especially when you are at the center of a thousand eyes focused only on you? The trick to a perfect wedding speech is simply one: practice.

The Structure

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Just as you did during your classroom essay, it will help you think of a structure for your speech and write different drafts to check, combine and refine over time. No artwork was completed in a couple of hours! Or, as our overseas neighbors say: Rome wasn’t built in a day!

Take the time you need to write the first draft and recheck it after a few days or even a few weeks; in this way, you will have the flexibility and serenity necessary to translate your feelings into words.

The Content

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Who doesn’t like a good story, told like an anecdote and surrounded by precise details that allow you to visualize the scene? Your wedding speech will be perfect if you focus on an episode, a wish to give to the newlyweds.

The best speeches are not those that use sophisticated words and grammar worthy of a passage from a movie, but they are the ones who manage to evoke an emotion.

Keep Calm


Or at least pretend! It doesn’t matter what you are going to say. Take deep breaths. Think of pleasant things. You can have a glass of wine but don’t overdo it. Speak slowly and think that no one is caring that your hands may be shaking.

Written By:
Titi Dokubo

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