Many people strongly desire a relationship, hate being single, and can’t wait to have someone next to them. The problem is that they don’t realize how important it is to prepare to welcome someone into your life and to have a serious relationship.
If you want someone just to stop being alone, and you’re not ready to be in a relationship, the result is that it will last a short time, or worse, it will last a long time, but it won’t make you happy, and it won’t make your partner happy.
Remember that to have a profound and happy relationship; you must be aware of the commitment that will be needed throughout your journey together with this person. It’s okay to imagine how you would like your relationship and your dream person to be, but the real question is, are you ready? Are you prepared to be that person for someone else?
1. Love Yourself
The first step in preparing for a good relationship is to love yourself. You need to have good self-esteem, love yourself, be comfortable with yourself, and appreciate your own company – that is, be comfortable alone. This is a crucial point for having a healthy relationship.
You need to be comfortable with yourself first and then be pleased with another person. Also, you can’t think about expecting your partner to be your savior. You are the only person who can provide for your happiness and well-being. It is not your partner who has to give you the love you do not give yourself. And vice versa.
Your partner, as I always say, will be an added value, a plus. You have to stand on your own feet, love, and respect yourself. Otherwise, you will not build a healthy relationship. Remember that your person can only make you happier. But you have to make yourself happy. First, you learn to love yourself, and then you can let a person do it.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you have to appreciate every single aspect of yourself. There may be aspects you like less than others. The important thing is to accept yourself, your limitations, and weaknesses precisely as you accept your strengths. If you don’t love yourself and don’t see your worth, you will bring these insecurities into your relationship.
2. Maintain Your Individuality
When you are in a relationship, learning to be alone and loving time with yourself will help you maintain your individuality. You will continue to have your passions, your interests, the time you spend with friends, family, or just time for yourself.
It is essential to maintain your individuality while in a relationship. If you focus only on the other person, spending every minute together and forgetting about yourself, the relationship risks becoming little by little suffocating.
3. Get Ready To Share
If you are an individualist, you don’t like talking to your person about what you are doing, where you are going, who you are with, then don’t start a relationship. You must keep in mind that you will no longer be alone, and you must consider that there is a person who expects to hear from you.
The best way to make sure you have your space while respecting the person you’re with is to let your partner know what’s on your mind. Do you need space, need to take an evening without looking at your cell phone, want to disconnect for a day? Okay, but let your partner know what’s going on.
4. Learn To Communicate
Communication is key to having a healthy relationship. It is crucial in any relationship. However, it becomes even more important in close relationships: those in which you spend most of your time with the other person and the odds of conflict are higher, given the established confidence.
For this reason, in a sentimental relationship, those who do not communicate are lost. If with your friends, after an argument you take a week to cool off, a week in which you have no contact and are silent, don’t think you can do the same thing with your partner.
5. Ask Yourself If You Truly Want A Relationship
Given the commitment that a relationship needs, you may be wondering if you want a relationship. Many people want a relationship because they want to take beautiful pictures to post on social media, brag to friends and girlfriends. They want the perfect picture of a relationship without accepting the responsibilities that the relationship requires.
If you want to have someone next to you because you want to love and be loved, you want to enjoy time together; you want to share your life, knowing full well that there will be difficulties, then this will allow you to have the strength and commitment to building something real.